Thanks for your kind response, Life is harsh sometimes your poor family. My husband is quite a few years older than myself and is also about to have a heart valve replacement. Not good times to be honest. My son didn’t arrive tonight we spoke on the phone and tears both sides. I just need him to be honest to himself and me. If we can get over this hurdle we can move forward with help, he is seeing a Councillor but not a group yet as he is still in denial and none of it to him is an issue other than losing his 4 year relationship. He believes the relationship breakdown is all down to him 100%, I am not so sure if I was honest. He is mid thirties, the problem started as soon as alcohol came into the equation in his teens. Fingers crossed he arrives tomorrow.
