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If you have him home your taking 10 step back , your heart must be breaking but your doing soo good ,stay strong x

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Sorry for your loss , there’s nothing more you could have done , you gave him love and support I’m sure he knew this so don’t be hard on yourself x hope you can find some help for yourself to get through this

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Nope not your fault ,tell him if he wants to blame anyone for lack of intimacy then maybe look towards himself, you have stood by him he should thank his stars he has a strong loving wife

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I’m from Glasgow , happy to chat to you x I don’t know of any meeting’s but sure their will be just Google or someone on here can point you in the right direction, hope your OK

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Your kids need you so much more than the situation your all in , no wonder your depressed and mentally drained , Try get help to take you and the kids out of that situation because they need there mum , seek support in family and friends to help you out , maybe go to Dr and tell them how your feeling and see what support medication wise or therapeutic you can get ,think of yourself as being so strong you’ve had this life for years but now your tired, please don’t give up , reach out to your family n friends and ask them to help you get you and your kids life turned around x

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Hey I get where your coming from , mentally it’s tough , he had me doubting myself is there something wrong with me why doesn’t he like me at times ,just need to keep thinking there’s nothing wrong it’s the other person

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Thank you, he ended it last night as if he was cancelling his milkman lol , gutted but nothing else I can do I’ve gave all I have , as much as it’s easy to say it’s his addiction, him as a person has a lot to do with it as well , he wants to remain best friends but I can’t see that happening

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Heyy hope everything is OK om your side , he called and asked why I’m being a bitch about it all, just told him I’m going to bed he said he will call in the morning but told him no , there’s no point, I need to stay strong because I can’t do this whenever he has a shit day or wants to hurt me part of me thinks as well as his addiction he is just a nasty person at heart so no matter if he gets help he will still remain like that xx I hope you and your family are good

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Jamesb your reply is so much helpful than mine , I’m feeling lot of anger and hurt just now but reading it from your perspective had made me feel a wee bit better because these days I just think he hates me and wants to hurt me , can I ask what it’s like for an addict the day after you’ve been on it because he gets on it and loves me to bits although don’t get much interaction because he sniffs continously till he can’t talk but then we have 2 maybe 3 days of him being moody and nasty then couple days where he seems normal then he on it and we are back to square 1

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They are cold hearted and twisted and everything is everyone else’s fault not theirs ,they are being like that because they are ashamed and angry at you finding out but they are taking it out on you , hope your as OK as you can be x

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We don’t have a sex life , we don’t have intimacy ,only when he wants a cuddle , he very moody for example he just off phone in a stinker for no reason so called him back and got pure attitude normally I’d text what’s wrong blah blah blah but no I’m not doing it , fed up of the rudeness ,the moods , we don’t stay together so maybe that’s why I’m finally thinking why am I taking this , I’m ready for throwing the towel in but my feelings keep me with him but because of his behaviour and attitude its tearing everything I feel away bit by bit , we are human beings too we deserve peace of mind and happiness and its realising that while they are in this cycle we are not gonna get either , the feeling unwanted is the worse feeling isn’t it and yet when they show the slightest bit of affection it makes it bearable

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My brother has been sober and clean for 3 years it’s been hard for him and I’m sure he still struggles but he has had a lot of help from AA ,and CA then he helped form a mental health group and went from there, thank you, I hope things get better for you and your son I’m sure they will it just takes time and a lot of patience

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Your not alone ,my mum went through this with my brother , support him as much as you can and fight to get him help from the professionals, your not a failure , my son was Sectioned but he has schizophrenia, with medication, anti pscotics your son should hopefully get better soon ,it takes a while but be patient and he is in a safe place getting help but fight to get him help when he comes home , just give him love and support and also show yourself some love , it’s not your fault you’ve not failed him, your still there your still being his mum x

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I don’t think they can feel while they stuck in addiction it rips all the good things away, its their new love, they need it they want it and feel terrible qhen they don’t have it , it’s not fair to us the ones who love them but It won’t change unless they do something about it , doesn’t matter how much care ,love ,support ,money we give them until they say enough is enough the situation will remain the same , my boyfriend loves Coke more than me , he will come off it for a week but then the min he sees his best mate its pub home and sit up all night getting high till he can’t move , I get completely forgotten about on these nights and I end up feeling down all night while he enjoying his night ,does he care ? He will send a text sorry not msg back will msg back later lol then that’s it till he surfaces later on yhe next day , I know deep down he does love me but when the coke is there it comes first , so yeah your partner will love you but he will love and need the drugs more ,not a reflection on you and if you do leave he will feel it but you need to do what makes you happy ,I’ve woken up with a fresh mind and decided I need to focus on me and my own life fo what makes me happy and let him continue the way he is , I can’t control his life and from now on I’m not going to let what he does control mine x I’ve rambled on but hope it helps a wee bit

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I’m rhe same I feel like I’ve no one to talk to so now and then come on here and vent ,so sorry to for your loss, hope your all OK, I don’t think a coke addict has the ability to feel for anyone or anything, don’t take it personally, I still do tbh , just keep telling yourself your doing a great job ,you are strong and will get strong enough to break away , I luckily don’t have kids with my bf , it sounds nuts but I vent to my phone lol I go on my notes and I write down how I’m feeling and I write as if I’m talking to him directly doesn’t change things but it gets it all out my system x

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