[vixen]

How’s it going now?

[vixen]

Ahhh I’m so pleased for you, and him! Sometimes we can’t give up on people, especially if we know what great partners they used to me. I’d like to think my partner would stand by me if i had a mid-life crisis! Relapses are common but no unsurmountable, and like you said, if you’re keeping yourself strong then you can both deal with it. I might try Al anon. I need some support too, these boards can be quiet sometimes.

Am happy you’re on a more positive path now though. 🙂 xxx

[vixen]

19 years… this is heartbreaking. So utterly utterly selfish for you and your poor kids xxx

[vixen]

He said crack was horrific, he did it for 3 weeks and had awful side effects (he never has side effects from alcohol or coke, never had a hangover in his life, lucky git!)… So I’m guessing he won’t do crack again, aside from that he has no money, he’s lost all his friends and family over this (we are religious and his behaviour has led to people drawing away from him till he sorts himself out)….. He’s clean at the moment, but he’s still drinking, which always is a catalyst for him… I’m worried it won’t be long before he falls of the wagon again when another life stress comes along. 🙁

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I would try everything to fix this. As you said, you’ve been in the relationship long term, he was the perfect dad/husband at one point…. you have history and kids together so it’s a lot to give up. But he has to want to do it… and before you fall apart. Theres only so much patience and love one can have till it wears thin. You know your limits, get support from family and friends and encourage him to seek help from CA or a therapist. If it all goes Pete Tong then you need to consider your and your kids sanity. Sorry I can’t give much advice, I’m new to all this drug abuse crap. If you ever want to talk, I’m always here. xxx Can we DM on these boards? not sure, can always give you my FB profile if you want. x

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Have a look at my post a few pages back called Coke, alcohol and prostitutes…

It definitely is a catalyst for my husband to cheat.

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Sorry, that was meant to be a sad face emoji…. 🙁

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