Hello everyone,
I’m thinking of all of us. Bump, I’m really sorry things are so bad at the moment. I think its probably the not being able to see how things can get better any time soon without something changing dramatically, that is the real killer. That’s the thing that I wake up with, how will this ever change! Please try and get some counselling from someone who understands addiction and what you’re going through. Adfam offer 6 free one-to-one support sessions with a counselor. https://adfam.org.uk/help-for-families/finding-support/request-support.
I’ve come to dread Christmas, probably like everyone else here, its easier not to expect anything from it, but hope that there isn’t a disaster. Last year I had to stay at my mum’s because she was really ill and my son was phoning and texting because my partner was rationing his codeine tablets, because he was terrified he’d take to many.
This year my partner is going away to his family and I am staying with my son, which takes some of the pressure off all of us.
Nanny ger, I really feel for you as well, I’m sorry things are so bad, at some point your son will wake up and realize what he’s doing.
Lindy – its great that your son is still on track, but he’s worked hard at it. Going to meetings must be very tough to start with.
Kate1, – always thinking of you, I know Christmas will be difficult, I hope you can be with your daughter and grandchild.
Ifonly – Hello, I am really sorry to hear your story. Its hard to comprehend how someone rejects their family in favor of drugs but its a compulsion that they can’t get a handle on. I was listening to the retired footballer, Paul Merson, talk about his gambling addiction and how he gambled away £7m, homes, everything. Even last year in lockdown he gambled the deposit he and his new wife were saving so they could buy their own home. Its impossible for us to comprehend and there is so little we can do other than try and point them towards places they can get help. I hope that your sons are doing okay, its so hard on them.