Hi Everyone and an especially warm welcome to the recent joiners to this forum where comfort and support can be obtained from each other in the nightmare of addiction and all the horrors that includes. The questions re what to do to continue enabling; ie buying , giving money, paying bailiffs, getting out loans, paying off thousands in backdated rent??? I have been there and done it and it made no difference in the longer term. I desperately wanted my son to not be on the streets and have food and warmth, something that you will all understand. There are no easy answers and no one solution to all. The nightmare of my son’s addiction has meant prison, restraining orders, child protection meetings and he has lost the opportunity to be an integral part of his children’s lives. As his mother, that hurts to the core. I made a decision to cut my son out of my life in the hope that that might help him address the problems and that was after decades of living with the horrors of addiction. Part of me regrets not doing this sooner; would that have prevented the current situation re being apart from his children which I know breaks his heart? As so many of us have said, there are no easy answers . It is so important to take care of ourselves. My son’s addiction was destroying me and I live with the permanent sadness of it all. But what to do? Carry on and take care of ourselves. I send love and hope to you all
