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Hiya gill.. hope your ok. 1st of im doing my best to quit coke. I.hate the stuff..i have lapsed 2 times in 14 week. The soon as i lapse i am back to not having it and in regret.
Drinking alcohol is a major factor in wanting cocaine. He needs to stop drinking totally. Coke sends you depressed and suicidal. So its that stuff thats making him mental if you ask me and his come downs.
And gill.. this is no way you.. but you really need to start to think about yourself and if you are happy with him?
Do you really need this crap? He shouldnt be bringing up past failures or calling you. He should be supporting you. Fair enough.. ive said bad things to my gf but thats every blue moon after a night out and we have had too much to drink. But still thats no excuse.
Does he want to quit? To be fair he needs stop alcohol and coke all together. He doesnt seem a nice person on the stuff.
Maybe have a word and say if he doesnt stop and change, your moving on with your life. Always think of your kids and you 1st!
My gf has stuck by me, shes not really been suportive. But im doing my best to stop. I dont drink anymore. And im trying everything to stop. Hope this helps. And good luck.
Id really have a good think what you want out of all this, and tell him.
Hey there, i have no experience with alcohol addiction only coke. But they both are a disease/addiction.
Regarding your 1st question id say no your not being unreasonable, children always come 1st no matter what.
There is no doubt about it she is an alcholic. She would not hide it if she did not have a problem with it.
Everyone is allowed a glass of wine or beer after work.. but 2 bottles sometimes.. seems a lot.
Does she drink in the day? Or do you not know?
My opinion is she needs to knock it on the head, and seek help straight away. Theres so much help for alcoholism online and doctors . Plus its only going to get worse, and everyone knows how easy it is to get alcohol.
Then you have the health factor. Its such a long and slow killer, watcing your partner slowly kill them self.
I would keep making aware what shes doing. How it effects you and the baby, and does she really want to risk losing everything. There are lots of AA meetings she could try.
But 1st of all she needs to admit she has a problem. Start by cutting down. And if its genetic and how its effected her, should she really drink again?
Hope this helps.
Well if he does.. he needs to delete everyone out his phone book to do with coke. Even family.
Stay away from alcohol. Pubs , clubs. Trigger points were hes used drugs and picked drugs up from. Get friends who dont use.. and stay in for a while to sort him self out. Thats just a little bit he needs to do really. Its a horrible drug. And i wish i never had it. Good luck
Hi joanne. 1st of dont be a guarantor. Do you really need the stress if he does not pay. And secondly he really does need to want to quit. Otherwise its pointless. alcohol is a main trigger for coke , so if hes going pub after work he will be getting coke maybe.
Id have a word with him and lay some ground rules. And make him aware of the drug. Id could give you advice on how to stop but there is no point just yet, if he does not want to. Feel free to ask me anything.
Thank you very much. And i hope your bf sorts himself out.. If there is one thing i could do.. to promote the dangers of coke and how to stop. My advice would be. Dont ever try it. And avoid it at all cost. Its a horrible and addictive drug. That plays tricks on you. Good luck
Just keep an eye on her and make her aware of the dangers. Just make sure when the nights out stop.. the habbit doesnt stay with you while your in the house at the weekend on your own, like mine did. They say if you take it for 6 month , just once a month, your addicted.
But everyone is different i guess. Good luck
It worrys me like mad if my kids found what i had. Or it landed on the floor .
He should be worried about that.
He really does sound like he couldnt care less. But thats what it does to some people. He could be on more than you think. It makes you lie a hell of a lot.
The only things i can suggest are.. keep going as you are and bite your tongue.
Him wanting help and help him out, which he doesnt seem to want.
Tell him to at least cut down for now.
Or tell him if he doesnt change soon and stop you are leaving and you are going to start a fresh. But thats entirely up to you.
Ive seen so many stories on here how it effects women because there partners use , and have no intentions to stop and its not nice. He is obvioulsy thinking of number 1 , and maybe you should to!
Hi there. Im doing my very best to stop coke. Ive lapsed 2 times in 3 month. I cannot stand the stuff.
And i am doing my best to stop. I only had it once every couple of week. But im an addict. And your husband is and needs to accept it.
Alcohol is my main trigger. The sec im drinking , i want to pick some coke up. And i do!. Its a vicious cycle.
Ive put my gf through so much crap
It sends me suicidal and depressed. I wish i never had the stuff.
Now your husband needs to admit he has a problem and that he wants to quit it. Its only going to get worse for him.
He needs to stop drinking. Id give you loads of advice how to stop. But there is no point if he does not just yet.
Watch louise clarke on you tube crack-cocaine part123.. i cant recommend her enough. She will teach you alot about the drug and how to stop. Its a disease and its a sneaky drug. Feel free to ask me anything. Good luck
Hi there. Im going through a coke addiction. Ive lapsed 2 times in 3 month. And i hate the stuff. Im doing my very best to stop
Now going to your daughter. If he mate is on it alot. Shes obviously gonna ask if your daughter wants some. And alcohol makes you want coke more and more.
Dont give her the money for bills or food. Say.. ill buy u the food what do you want.. or send me the bill details. See what she says then.
Coke sends you depressed and suicidal. Im on anti deps as well. You need tell her to stop going out as much. And spend time with the kids instead. And get her act together.
But im afraid if she is on coke. She wont stop till she wants to. If u need any advice or help just ask.
No hox lol ive just got to work 🙁
I just seen this about your little girl.. its easier said than done people saying do this for your girl.. but its a disease. But the main thing dawn and this is what i have learned.. do this for you! You need stop! You can stop. And when you are better everyone else will slip into place. Its all about you dawn! You really can do this.
Do a plan.. every day you have to do something with her to keep you busy..
Make something, a big dolls house, jigsaw.. anything.. keep your self busy.