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Hi Hannahlambert,
Welcome to the Forum, a great place to share your story and chat with people in similar situations.
I am the Mum of an addict (alcohol and cocaine). They lie, steal, rack up huge debts and selfish to the core, I know my Son used to chat to endless girls after he had been using, he tells me now that he can’t even remember doing half the stuff when he was using.
I know the addiction is an illness, but it is so hard to live with, most of the time you feel that you are treading on egg shells in your own home. It’s not the way to live especially as you have two young children.
Do any of your family know how you live? It is always good to be able to share with someone close to you.
They have to want to stop and they are the only people that can decide this. There is on line zoom meetings for addiction.
The Icarus Trust are another place where you can talk to people who know exactly what you are going through, never think you are on your own.
Keep in touch on here, I find it really helps.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Oldbird,
Enjoy the peace and quiet for the next few weeks, it will make you feel so much better not having to worry about your Son.
My Son went to Rehab, and quite honestly it was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders, and my bank account also looked a bit more healthy too.
Don’t blame yourself, I was exactly the same as you, they make you like this, and sometimes it was the easier option.
Take care of you and keep in touch on here.
Dx
Hi RaiderNation,
Welcome to the Forum.
I just want to say well done and keep going, you are doing really well. Your wife sounds amazing.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Cem12,
Welcome to the Forum. Never think that you are on your own, this is a great place to share your story and keep in contact with people.
I read your story and feel frightened for you, he doesn’t sound a very nice person to be honest. If you have never taken cocaine before, please do not take it anymore, it will destroy your life, you have already nearly died from taking it and propanol.
Can you not to talk to your best friend about her brother? You said that you have never drank or smoked before you met him and now you are drinking and taking cocaine, I really don’t think that you are happy in this relationship, personally I’d run for the hills and never look back. Get back into your running and cycling, exercise is good for the mind.
Please keep in touch on here and take care.
You can always talk to the Icarus Trust as well.
Dx
Hi K90,
Welcome to the Forum, a great place to share your story and chat with people in similar situations to yourself.
I really feel for you, it must be a very distressing time especially with your forthcoming pregnancy. Have you got anyone who you can talk too? Family members or anything.
Speak to the Icarus Trust, they can help.
Being with an addict is very wearing and even harder when you have little ones relying on you. He won’t change unless he wants too, which is the sad truth about it.
I am the Mum of an addict, alcohol and cocaine, he is doing well at the moment, but it was 10 years of hell before he reached out for help.
Please take care of yourself and your children first, keep in touch on here. There is always hope.
Take care
Dx
Hi LilGunner,
Welcome to the Forum.
I am the Mum of an addict, alcohol and cocaine, he is doing well at the moment, but it has been a very long and distressing road, the only way I can describe it is, it is like living in hell.
Cocaine is an evil drug and completely changes people, they lie, manipulate, do anything to get money, and hurt the people that help them the most.
They will only ever give up when they want to, no matter what anybody says to them.
I can’t tell you what to do, and wouldn’t dream of it, but if you read other stories on here you will see the devastation it brings to families, people in relationships.
It is an illness, and it’s very sad to see, but they are the ones who have to want to give up and seek help, you only hope one day that they do.
Take care of yourself first and think what you want to do. Keep in touch on here, lots of great advice from people in similar situations.
Dx
Hi Lolarose,
Welcome to the Forum.
That is a very powerful message and also very sad.
I hope that you are ok and have got people to support you.
There are lots of people on here that you can chat to and also the Icarus Trust would be able to help you too.
Take care.
Dx
Hi all,
Wishing you all a very Happy New Year, hope you have had a good Xmas.
I pray that our sons will start off the new year being positive.
Take care all.
Dx
Hi Tracey,
Welcome to the Forum, a great place to share your story and hopefully get help and advice from other people in a similar situation.
I have found the Adfam site to be a god send, have you read the Theresa thread? There are about 6 Mums on there all with Sons who are addicts, it’s so good to be able to chat with people in the same situation.
My Son is an addict, alcohol and cocaine (such an evil drug), he is doing ok at the moment, but have lived through it with him for about 10 years, like living in hell.
We have to learn to look after ourselves first, which I find very difficult to do, as you say the constant worry is terrible.
Keep chatting on here and read the other threads, I really think it helps.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Purpleheart,
Welcome to the Forum, it’s a great place to start and share your story, lots of people on here in a similar situation.
My Son is an addict, alcohol and cocaine, he is doing ok at the moment, but before he said he needed help life was hell.
I hope you have gone home now, your girls need you as i’m sure you know. I understand completely you sitting in your car, sometimes you just need a bit of time to get things straight in your head.
Do you think your husband wants to stop with the alcohol and cocaine? He is the one that has to do it and find help. There are on line meetings for AA, CA and NA, they run all the time.
Have you got anybody you can confide in? His family perhaps. It’s hard coping all alone with this especially when you have a family. But you are not alone, keep in touch on here, it’s a great place to be able to chat.
I hope you feel better for sharing your story, it helps to get it off your chest. Take care of you and your girls first.
There is also the Icarus Trust who you could chat too.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Mel86,
Welcome to the Forum, I bet you feel better for getting that off your chest.
I am the Mum of an addict, alcohol and cocaine, my son is doing ok at the moment, but I lived with the problem for 10 plus years before he decided he needed help, and they have to be the ones who decide if they want help.
My Son has been in rehab twice, but it costs an awful lot of money. They were brilliant at the place where he went, all recovering addicts themselves, but such lovely, warm people.
Your Brother sounds as if he has a good job with very good money, so this of course funds his habit, it’s an expensive hobby, and an evil drug.
It’s very sad that he doesn’t spend time with your Dad, but I should imagine that’s his guilt. My Son doesn’t have a very good relationship with his own Dad, but like I tell him, you only have one Dad and when they are gone you will then realise.
Do you think your Brother wants help, does he think he has a problem?
The Icarus Trust would be a good place to get in touch with, you can talk to people who know exactly what you are going through.
Keep in touch on here, take care of yourself first.
Dx
Hi Smh1987,
Welcome to the Forum, hopefully you will find some very useful advice from people in a similar situation to yourself.
I am the Mum of an addict, alcohol and cocaine, although he is doing well at the moment.
A life with an addict is not a good one, and being the Mum of an addict is very hard.
I think you asking the question “what life would I have” , is a good question, and from experience, it’s not a good life, it’s like a living hell, and that’s only being very honest. I feel for his Mum, having to bail him out of these situations, I have also had to do this for my Son, it could be you who he asks the next time, they don’t care how they get the money or who from, and if your boyfriend is a daily user, he is spending some serious money.
Do you think he wants to get help? Has he made any steps to get help?
There are lots of stories on here that are very sad, but it’s a great place to share your story and get advice from other people.
There is also the Icarus Trust who you can talk to.
Keep in touch on here, and take care of yourself first.
Dx
Hi Bump,
I really know how you are feeling, and your right it is hell. It’s so good to have this Forum and be able to share with everyone on here, so glad I found it.
My Son is doing ok, but I think his mental health is not good, up one day and down the next, and all the while treading on egg shells, which is no way to live. Most of the time it is good, but on the times it isn’t, it takes me right back to the really bad times and I think my health is suffering from worrying and getting anxious.
I think we have to remember that none of this is our fault, very hard to do at times.
Enjoy the good times with your younger son, and keep going. I only hope that one day we can escape.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Kirstydee,
Please don’t think you are a failure, by going to your Doctor and asking for help, you are doing the right thing, they helped you before and will help you again.
I don’t know about codeine addiction, but some other people on here will hopefully read your post.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Bex,
Welcome to the Forum, it’s a great place to share your story and hopefully find some good advice and know that you are in a place with many people in the same situation.
My Son is an addict, alcohol and cocaine, he is doing ok at the moment, but I have lived with his addiction for over 10 years, it is very draining and like living in hell sometimes.
Your Brother could join Zoom meetings on line, AA, CA both do lots of meetings, do you think he would do this? Has he tried stopping drinking? The drink is usually the trigger for the cocaine, which is an evil drug.
He obviously wants to try and give up because he reached out to you, which is really good, hopefully he will try for both your sakes.
Read other stories on here, keep in touch on here.
Take care.
Dx