roo1992,
Hopefully someone more knowledgeable will come on soon and help answer your question. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. My advice would be to only look forwards now and be relieved this awful drama has left you life. Please don’t waste any more of your precious life on someone so violent and cruel. You know you deserve better. As for feeling ashamed that it’s happened in your neighbourhood, the shame is not yours and people will soon find something else to gossip about anyway, as is their way.