[jtekg4]

Hello everyone, I haven’t posted in a while….but I still read the messages. I’m at a year and a half in. I try to stay busy still to keep my mind off of everything. I don’t cry as much, I don’t know if I’m just cried out or Just simply numb. I miss him every second of everyday. Once upon a time we were so deeply in love. He was a wonderful man…. my soulmate no doubt about it! This horrible disease changed him… he became someone that hated me, someone that seemed like a stranger. My husband seemed to have faded away years ago. This will be my struggle for the rest of my life. I still love the man that I married. I try to remember the good times, but then memories of how everything happened creep in. I am so thankful for this thread and this forum. You all understand and can relate to how this disease corrupts the drinker and all that love them. Thank you all for your continued advice and words of encouragement. No one can relate to this hell unless you’ve lived it.

[jtekg4]

Hello everyone, I haven’t posted in a while….but I still read the messages. I’m at a year and a half in. I try to stay busy still to keep my mind off of everything. I don’t cry as much, I don’t know if I’m just cried out or Just simply numb. I miss him every second of everyday. Once upon a time we were so deeply in love. He was a wonderful man…. my soulmate no doubt about it! This horrible disease changed him… he became someone that hated me, someone that seemed like a stranger. My husband seemed to have faded away years ago. This will be my struggle for the rest of my life. I still love the man that I married. I try to remember the good times, but then memories of how everything happened creep in. I am so thankful for this thread and this forum. You all understand and can relate to how this disease corrupts the drinker and all that love them. Thank you all for your continued advice and words of encouragement. No one can relate to this hell unless you’ve lived it.

[jtekg4]

Hello everyone, I haven’t posted in a while….but I still read the messages. I’m at a year and a half in. I try to stay busy still to keep my mind off of everything. I don’t cry as much, I don’t know if I’m just cried out or Just simply numb. I miss him every second of everyday. Once upon a time we were so deeply in love. He was a wonderful man…. my soulmate no doubt about it! This horrible disease changed him… he became someone that hated me, someone that seemed like a stranger. My husband seemed to have faded away years ago. This will be my struggle for the rest of my life. I still love the man that I married. I try to remember the good times, but then memories of how everything happened creep in. I am so thankful for this thread and this forum. You all understand and can relate to how this disease corrupts the drinker and all that love them. Thank you all for your continued advise and words of encouragement. No one can relate to this hell unless you’ve lived it.

[jtekg4]

I’m so happy that things are better for you both. I pray that it lasts. All you can do is focus on each day, just like you are doing.

We are ok…also just focusing on one day at a time.

[jtekg4]

Hi, how are things?

[jtekg4]

I hope everything went well for you both.

[jtekg4]

Very true, thank you!!! I try to self talk and remind myself of all this when all the “what ifs” creep in, but it also helps to hear it from others.

[jtekg4]

I am wishing you all the luck with this. I watched my husband turn into a different person. He had grown to hate me, because I had grown to hate the alcohol for what it was doing to him, our marriage, and our family. I hope that she is not that far gone. I pray you have more luck. ????

[jtekg4]

Maybe if she sees your love and commitment for your marriage and for her to get better, it will have a positive affect on her drinking. My husband was super defensive and I guess being a man, it sadly did not have this effect. Women are more emotional and maybe if she sees she is not alone it will help. Praying your outcome is better than mine.

[jtekg4]

Have you tried AL-anon, AA, marriage counseling?

[jtekg4]

Yes, it certainly does. I know exactly what you are going through. I remember the phase you are in all to well. Everything was my fault. It’s important to remember that you are not alone, being in this situation makes you feel very isolated. I hope and pray that your situation ends up differently than mine. At least you still have the hope that she could recover. It’s even harder when that hope is gone.

[jtekg4]

I am so very sorry that you are in this place Sean. I know how isolated it can make you feel. It’s like watching a train wreck and you cannot do anything to stop it. If you ever need to talk please know that I am here. I loved my husband with all that I am, but I just couldn’t reach him. I was powerless….it has to be their choice to get better. I understand what you are going through. You and your wife are in my prayers.

[jtekg4]

Hi, I just list my husband 2 months ago to alcoholism…..alcohol poisoning. We were divorcing and this is the result. I feel guilty, buti tried EVERYTHING I knew too. Myself and our daughters begged and pleaded for more than 10 years…nothing could reah him. He’d make promises….improve for a couple of weeks and then the lies and sneaking would start all over again. I had reach the point where it was ruining our lives and home…we had to have a stop to it. I watched the man I loved….(still love) slowly slipping away until he was completely gone. Its devastating!

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