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Hi Jane123, welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one with addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry to read that your son’s addiction to weed is affecting his mental health. It’s very frustrating and sad as a mother to watch addiction taking over your son’s life.
The thing is that you cannot really do anything until they themselves realise they have a problem and want support. Then you have NA, CA or AA fellowship groups to join. From then , the work the 12 steps, get a sponsor meet others in similar situations.
You need to look after your own health and well-being. If you go to the homepage and look at Share Your Story heading. Scroll back and read the Theresa thread. There are several of us mums with sons with addictions who all support and help each other. You’ll realise that you’re not alone.
Keep posting at let us know how you’re doing.
Take care
Lx
Hi Jaz
I’m so sorry I missed your last post on 15th November. Yes, it’s sad to hear that you had a relapse,but my son also has had relapses.
My son had to stay away from his drinking friends, as the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine. He cannot have any alcohol now.
His main friendship group are the CA and AA fellowship. He has to do meetings regularly or things go bad for him.
3 weeks clean is fantastic!
Can you seek advice from them- they do online meetings 24/7.
Can you explain to your work that you have mental health issues? It might save your job.
My son also had large debts but he’s managed to consolidate it and manage it better.
Please do not give up hope Jaz. I pray that things will improve for you.
Have faith and stay strong my friend. ❤
Lx
Hi Debc, lovely to hear from you. Yes, I was thinking about Dan , I do hope he’s okay.
Yes, thankfully, son is doing fine. Just received his 6 month free AA token. So pleased for him and proud. He still gets a bit jumpy and quick tempered sometimes but he seems to be able to control it better. He’d be lost with the CA and AA fellowship and meetings. People in recovery really need this support regularly.
I like to keep in touch here hopefully help or encourage others.
I hope things are better for you and your son. I pray daily for us all here. Recovery is a long road and I never get complacent. Yes, so many sad stories addiction is such a cruel mental health illness.
We can only do our best Deb, let them know we love them but hate what addiction does to a family.
We also have to look after ourselves, not getting any younger- personally speaking!
I’m so pleased I have you lovely mums here, you were there for me when I couldn’t speak to even my family about my son’s situation.
One day at a time, same advice as they get in recovery ????
Hoping you and your family have a peaceful weekend.
Sending hugs ❤
Lx
Hi Dan, was thinking of you and wondering how you’re doing. I expect you’ve been busy with the new flat!
Drop us a text and let us know that you’re doing okay ????
Lx ❤
Hi Kinggy, welcome to the forum.
Please don’t beat yourself up. You’ve done so well- 9 months! That’s brilliant- but I think things have just got too much and you’ve reached out for something to help it “go away”.
But you know it’s a slippery slope when the cycle starts again. Please try to be very strong and fight this need to use. The CA fellowship are so supportive and are there for you when you are feeling weak. There are meetings often and online too.
You need to be attending meetings regularly my friend. My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, currently in recovery, thank God. But he has relapsed a few times in the past, I understand how you must feel.
For the sake of your future health and happiness and family please contact CA or AA groups. They run a 12 step programme and the guys are so supportive.
Keep in touch, let us know how you’re doing. Stay strong.
Lx
Hi Believe welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one with addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice.
I’m so sorry to read your story, you must be exhausted with this nightmare of addiction.
I agree with Kate Plumb, you should seek advice from the Adfam homepage or Icarus trust, or maybe Drugfam. It’s very important that you look after your own health and well-being and only then, will you be able to get the strength to support your son.
I usually post on the Theresa thread, we are a group of mums who have sons with addictions.
It’s good to talk or vent to others who have been in similar situations. The ladies are so kind and supportive.
My son is currently , thankfully in recovery at the moment. I never get complacent as we all know with mental health issues/adhd, ocd etc things can change pretty quickly.
I just wanted you to know there’s no need to feel alone in this nightmare of addiction.
Take care ❤
Lx
Hi Joanie
I’m glad to see that you had a good day with your son yesterday. We had to celebrate these successes no matter how big or small – at least it’s positive.
I see Debc and February Marie have replied to you, they are lovely ladies who always offer support and advice, even although they are going through difficulties in their own lives.
Stay in touch , join the Theresa thread, we are all pretty much in the same boat, except our sons are at different stages. But we are all very aware what a person with addiction can do to an otherwise loving, caring family.
Take care Joanie
Lx
Bump, you have been through such a lot, never feel that you have to apologise. I agree, the long covid definitely compounds a situation.
My health has improved thankfully, but still using inhalers and avoiding hilly walks.
Please try to focus on your own recovery if you can Bump. Don’t let this evil addiction take over all your lives. I wish I had all the answers, I really do, but please know that all of us on this thread are here for you.
Sending you much love ❤
Lx
Thank you February Marie, I’m scared to talk about his recovery in case I somehow jinx it! He doesn’t know I chat here. But I have mentioned I’ve spoken to others in a similar position and people in recovery. I like to stay in touch. People here very kindly supported me when I couldn’t (and still can’t) talk to my close relatives.
The regular meetings for recovering addicts are very important, they can’t afford to get too complacent with their recovery. He’s enjoying buying nice things for himself which he has never done in the past. He still has a temper but will apologise now. I still keep praying for him to get the strength to keep fighting, also for your lads too. Never give up hope . I hope the rest of the weekend is peaceful for everyone.
Stay strong
Sending hugs ❤ Lx
Thanks February Marie- I knew I could count on you lovely ladies!
Hope everyone has a peaceful weekend.
Lx
Thanks Debc, much appreciated, I’m sure Joanie will too.
Xx
Hi Joanie
Family and friends will never know what it’s like to live with a loved one with addictions.
My son is doing okay but it’s still walking on eggshells when he’s around and looking over my shoulder.
Hope you have a peaceful weekend. Go online to Drugfam, I’ve heard they are very supportive.
Take care
Lx
Hi ladies, I wondered if you could reply to Joanie59. I think she’s find it difficult to find the Theresa thread which is on the Share your Story heading. Her story is on the next heading Drugs Alcohol etc.
She really needs some words of advice and support regarding her son.
I think she would benefit from knowing she’s not alone in this nightmare that is addiction.
Thank you all so much,
Kate – you and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers. ❤
Lx hugs to all
Hi Nanny ger, I’m so sorry to read your story. It’s heartbreaking to hear that the only way for you to deal with this, for your own health, is to walk away for the time being.
I know this must be hard , I can’t imagine what that would be like.
I hope that your grandchildren will get you through this difficult time.
Have a peaceful weekend.
Sending you much love,
Lx
Also, if you scroll up and see the heading “share your story ” you’ll see the Theresa thread. There are so many mums going through the same or similar issues with there sons. When you read the stories you’ll know that you’re not alone.
Lx