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Always here to chat econrathe,
Everyone on this forum are so understanding and supportive.
My son is 28 and has alcohol and cocaine addictions, I know how this illness can consume the addict and their families. Unfortunately there just isn’t enough support for them.
It’s great that he was in that job for 25 years, it was probably his saving grace a lot of the time, bless him.
Yes, alanon will be a good support for you. Take as much support and advice as you need.
Take care of yourself now.
Sending hugs
Lx
Hi econrathe, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You’ll read so many sad and familiar stories here from families who have lost their loved ones to addictions.
I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better, except that he is at peace now and no longer has a daily battle with his addiction.
Please seek support to help you get through this sad and difficult time.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Lx ????
Congratulations Dot, you should be very proud of yourself!
I agree, it’s great to hear some positive news, it gives us all hope.
My son had a clean 6 months – but relapsed unfortunately. He’s back in early recovery again thankfully almost 3 months now, I know it’s difficult for him , but he knows what the alternative is.
Keep on doin what you’re doin!
Lx
Thank you for your post Jamesb, this is a lovely tribute and I know you will make your mum and dad proud.
Take care of yourself and your family.
Lx
You know that you will have all our support in whatever you do Kate.
Take care
Lx
I agree Kate. I remember phoning the FRANK support line several months ago, and they couldn’t really advise me on what to do. They pretty much said what you did – different circumstances will need different types of support. Each person with addiction will need a different response to their particular needs.
You supported your son the best you could, and most importantly he knew that you loved him.
Thinking of you and praying you get the strength to get through this difficult time.
Lx ❤
Hi Hump, welcome to the forum.
Everyone here has a loved one battling addictions, or people in recovery or just reaching out for support.
Such a lot of stress for you and your mum. I agree with the rehab owner, you also need some time to breathe and switch off from the nightmare that is addiction.
Unfortunately I don’t have all the answers, but I totally sympathise with you and what you’re going through. You only have to read this thread to see how addiction has and is affecting our families. (And ourselves)
It’s totally down to your brother to take that first step for support, until then it’s difficult to stand by and not support them somehow.
I stopped giving my son cash. I bought groceries and cigs, sometimes petrol to get him to his AA or CA meetings. It’s the only thing that is working for him atm.
Please take time out for yourselves and look after your own mental health or this addiction will drag you down with it.
Take each minute, hour, day at a time , find time to be good to yourself.
The Icarus trust offers advice and support as does the adfam homepage.
Keep posting, stay strong.
Lx
Sounds like a plan Tim. I’ve had a lovely day ????thanks
Take care,
Lx
Hi Tim, welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one fight addictions or are have addictions, and also people in recovery offering advice and support.
You’ve taken the first difficult step in admitting you have a problem and need help. I replied to someone similar to your story a few days ago. Read Sam37/dark slope with alcohol. Perhaps it would be good to read their story.
Click above “share your story ”
My son has cocaine and alcohol addictions, he is 28. He’s currently in early recovery. He said the only thing that works for him was joining AA and CA. Attending meetings frequently and meeting up with people who can offer advice and support. He has OCD issues too, which compound the situation.
In the UK there are several groups to help adults with aspergers/autism, Perhaps the doctor could give you a point of contact for support?
I wish you well, keep in touch, people on this forum are very helpful and supportive.
Lx
Click onto ‘share your story ‘ above, it’s the thread next to our Theresa thread Kate.
Lx
Jopdm123 – is the thread Kate, next to this one.
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Hi Kate, I’ve been thinking about you and your family a lot.
There’s nothing I can say to make you feel better unfortunately, they say time is a great healer.
I hope your little grandchild is a welcome distraction for you.
I wondered if you read the recent thread from Jomd123/advice and guidance. She has recently lost her brother in similar circumstances to your son. She also feels at a loss, and feels helpless.
I’m keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.
Sending hugs
Lx ❤
Jo, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Both your dad and now your brother. Such a difficult time for you. I wanted to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
No one can understand what goes on in the mind of someone who is affected by addiction or mental health issues. Please don’t blame yourself for anything that’s happened. They are just tormented souls who don’t know where or who to turn to.
Please look after your own health and well-being particularly now that you have your baby.
Your brother and dad are at peace now and wouldn’t like to see you upset or struggling to cope. There is also bereavement counselling support groups.
Keep in touch, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Lx
Hi Sam
Welcome to the forum, thank you for sharing your story, that must have been hard for you to take that first step. This is the first step to recovery, to admit that you have a problem and want to seek support.
I agree with Debc, this is a lot for you to deal with on your own.
If you are in the UK, the GP should be referring you to a group for Adults with autism.
For your addiction, the AA is a good place to start, you will meet others you can talk to, or just listen. You will get coping strategies and meet others who will support you during your difficult days.
The Icarus trust posts here too, they have advice and support. Please don’t feel you have to deal with this on your own. My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions and currently in early recovery. He says AA is the only thing that helps him. He has anxiety and ocd type issues too. My nephew has aspergers so I understand some of the issues you have. Do you work? Do they realise that you’re struggling- they also have a duty of care to support you.
It is ultimately down to you now to seek the help you need. It might be difficult at first but it will be so worth it in the end.
Keep posting here, we all look out for each other and support each other.
Take care,
Lx
Hi Dan, glad to hear that you’re still doing well – and saving up too, that’s brilliant.
It’s good when you start to see results when you re trying so hard.
If I was your mum – and I’m probably old enough lol, I’d be so proud of you.
My son is doing okay atm. He still gets really anxious and stressed about stuff, I know it’s so difficult for him. He’s about two months into this recovery, lost some excess weight, going to gym etc.
He’s doing his best. Stay strong and take care, thanks again for your support.
Lx