Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Yes, he’s doing well- and so are you Dan ????
Keep posting and let us know how you’re doing- your mum will also be so proud of your achievement too.
Take care ❤️
Lx
I’m good thanks, if son’s doing well- I’m doing well ????
He still does his ca meetings, helping others now too. He still has anxiety and ocd type issues but the strategies help him through it.
He said the meetings are like medicine that he needs to take regular.
We’re in Scotland Dan.
Lx
Hi Dan, sorry to jump in on the thread but I had to congratulate you on your 6 months of recovery!
Well done- I’m so pleased for you – that is wonderful news, I often think of you and your journey and still keep you in my prayers ????
My son is still doing well too -thankfully .
Sending hugs
Lx ❤️
Hi Megan
Welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one with addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice.
Thank you for sharing your story , I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time with your mum.
Addiction is a horrible illness – it turns your loved one into people you don’t know. Makes them selfish and nasty- especially to those closest.
My 29yr son has alcohol and cocaine addictions- when it was at it’s worst, I felt was mourning the loss of the son I had- before Addiction. Its so very sad.
Until they themselves realise they want help and support – you cannot force them into it.
Fortunately my son came to us just before he was about to lose everything.
He joined AA and CA groups and attends regular meetings. He worked the 12 step program and he is currently 1 yr clean.
I wanted you to know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel .
Drugfam , Icarus Trust and the Adfam homepage also offer support and advice.
In the meantime, please look after your own health and well-being.
Take care Megan
Lx ❤️
Hi Kezz, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story.
I’m so sorry to read that you have lost family members through addiction and suicide.
Do you have anyone close to talk to that aren’t using?
My son is almost 30, he has alcohol and cocaine addictions, the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine. He had been experimenting with different substances since age 14.
It was a living nightmare living with him. He also has an addictive personality. Gambling, sex, alcohol, cocaine- whatever he does- he does it 100%.
I think he has ocd.
It came to a head 2 yrs ago, he was about to lose everything. Job, flat, car his family- he reached out for help.
He attended AA and CA groups and through the help from these guy, he got himself clean. He had a couple of relapses on the way- but he is currently 1 year clean!
I wanted you to know, that people care, there IS help out there- but you need strength and determination to get you through it. Read Danman83 and Jamesb posts here, they are guys in recovery offering support and advice.
Keep posting and let us know how you’re doing- you have already taken the first step in admitting that addiction is taking over your life.
Stay strong my friend ❤️
Lx
Such a shame that there was nothing for him in prison. I know they are there as a form of punishment – but more has to be done by way of rehabilitation.
He needs to realise himself that he needs help, until that happens- it’s just a waiting game and self – preservation for you.
Please look after yourself as best as possible. Let him know that you love him and will support him when he’s ready to accept help- But his behaviour is totally unacceptable as it is.
My son is doing well- 1 Yr free of alcohol and cocaine- a miracle. I thank God every day, but continue to pray for his strength to fight this evil of addiction.
Stay strong my friend ❤️
Lx
Hi DM2
Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story with us.
I’m so sorry to read that your son’s behaviour/addiction is upsetting you and your home.
I wondered if the prison had him on any sort of detox or rehab program similar to the AA 12 steps? Is he aware that his drinking is a major issue?
For support for you, Drugfam has counselling and the Icarus trust posts here too, also the Adfam homepage offer advice and support.
My 29yr son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, thankfully is currently I recovery thanks to AA and CA groups.
I also post on the Theresa thread- click above to “share your story ” and scroll down.
It’s all mums with sons with addictions offering support and advice and no one judges you. Everyone is kind and helpful.
I truly wish I had the answers but for now, know that you’re not alone in this nightmare.
Take care, sending ❤️
Lx
Hi February Marie,
3months sober! I’m so pleased to hear that.
I hope you are managing to focus on yourself and the rest of the family.
Take care ❤️
Lx
Hi Pambler, welcome to the forum.
Thank you for sharing your story and I wanted to congratulate you on getting to 8 days! That’s brilliant!
My 29yr son has cocaine and alcohol addictions. Was struggling for years, debts mounting, health suffering, ready to lose everything.
He admitted he needed support and help to change.
He approached AA and CA groups and attended meetings.
These guys are great, so supportive, he got a sponsor, did the 12steps program.
I’m pleased to see he’s received his 1year token this week- clean for a year! It can be done Pambler- he was exactly like you.
Have you read Danman83 or Jamesb posts on another thread? They are guys in recovery offering advice and support too!
It’s good to hear from guys in a similar situation, it really helped my son in his recovery.
The mums on this thread are also so supportive they have also helped me.
Keep on doing what you’re doing, it will be so worth it!
Stay strong lad
Lx ❤️
❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Lx
Hi Kate, I will always keep you, your lad and family in my thoughts and prayers. It could have happened to any one of us, good , loving mums, good upbringing. Etc
Most young lads are experimenting with drink and, or drugs, but only a few will become totally addicted. My son always in the past had ocd type symptoms, every he does is 100% – good or bad.
I wish I could give you a hug, but I know you’ll get comfort from his child and your daughter. He’ll always be in your heart Kate.
Please seek support wherever you can or whenever you’re ready.
Always here for you ❤️
Lx
Hi all,
Wonderful news Joanie, thank you for sharing it with us! Please use this time for you too ❤️
Penny- I’m glad your son was found. Such a relief when they finally turn up after going off like that.
Kate- always in my thoughts, I know it’s your son’s anniversary soon, hope you’re coping better ❤️
Lx
Morning Bump
Yes, a great achievement, also for your son too. 3 months, that’s wonderful news- I’m so pleased for you.
I also hope it’s making a difference in your lives, I know your health hasn’t been great lately.
It has left me feeling like I have a bit ptsd with all that’s happened over the years. But I can’t complain, as long as we’re all happy and healthy.
I’ll stay in touch here just the same and keep praying ????
Have a lovely royal weekend ????
Sending hugs
Lx ❤️
Hi all
Thinking about us all here and like February Marie, I keep us all in my thoughts and prayers daily.
So pleased to hear your son is 5 weeks into his recovery February Marie. This is great progress.
I wanted to share my positive news that my son is coming up to his first year in recovery.
It’s been a tough ride for him but he’s been strong and pushed through it.
It’s so much easier to support them when you can see they’re trying their best.
He still has ocd type issues and anxiety but is learning to deal with things better.
Have faith, be strong and take care of each other. ❤️ hugs to all,
Lxx
Hi Nova, welcome to the forum, thank you for sharing your story.
Everyone here has a loved one with addiction or people in recovery offering support and advice too.
My son is 29yr, has alcohol and cocaine addictions. Its been a living nightmare for 10+ years, but he’s currently almost 1 year sober.
He admitted he needed support after a really bad episode of drink.
He had the shakes too.
Doctors weren’t much help, AA was the best support. Lots of people, some in recovery for years offering support and advice.
He joined CA too. You have to go to meetings regularly though- he says it’s his medicine.
It’s worth a try- it’s been tried and tested since the 1930s.
Look after yourself in the meantime, find time for something you enjoy. He’s in for a tough ride but well worth the effort.
Keep in touch here, lots of lovely people willing to help.
Drugfam and Icarus trust also offer advice and support.
Take care
Lx ❤️