[little-al]

Hi ..my partner is a heroin of 20 years. .i love him dearly and we have 3 children. .my advise to you wpyld be to stear clear. .im sorry if this isnt what you was expecting. My partners drug use has recently spiralled and hes inva cycle of using to feel better. .to get out of bed..If he doesnt have his heroin he doesn’t get out of bed and becomes anxious abd i feel like im walking on eggshells. If he has money …my money as it has become co..dependent meaning he doesnt work ..i have 2 jobs now so not only do i pay everything but also fund this existence he is in …if he has money. .he can spend hours scouring to get it and then a couple of hours doing it so my day is usually around this . Being a heroin addict is like a full time job ..thats all je thinks about. He regually steals my bank card or money. He had ar tomes been abusive when hes been rattling. .used to be physical but now its more verbal. .or trashing the rooms looking. ..he sits in dirty houses to do it and its embarrassing cause the smell then lingers onto his clothes. He can look well at times then other times a total mess. .and even need telling to haveca shave or a bath. The nature of addiction makes them selfish. .he is on a methadone script but still uses. He packed up work 4months ago saying he needed to get clean ..he was using Daily and all his wages went on gear and even some of my money. Breaking codependency isnt easy ..the addict over time will find a way of making yoy feel its your responsibility. .and you will feel guilty if you don’t give in ..it makes me feel like its ny addiction. .even though i don’t use any drugs. Also you eill become isolated from friends and so down you wount be bothered about socialising. .its a struggle to look after the kids the way you would normally do because it over takes your feelings and thoughts. .head for the hills ..its soul destroying for the families aswelvas the addict x

[little-al]

I could relate to every word of that. My partner is a heroin addict for 20 years on and off. .His latest relapse has lasted 5 years . Last week I was in hospital and had keyhole surgery to remove my appendix and a cyst on my ovaries. For 5years we have kept his relapse from his family but as I wasn’t around they now know. This week he is doing a home detox and has booked time off work. .my worry is not just if he doesn’t manage it but also how do I trust him after. .With money in his pocket? We are lucky because although people know we still manage to keep a social life with friends that don’t use. .I just wish my partner would realise how lucky he is. Before he was with me he was always in jail or homeless so he has come along way. .good luck to you and your partner
We have 3 lovely girls by the way x

[little-al]

Can you please not post this on my blog sandy 222. I joined the group to share with people experiences and help others. .offer advice. My parents passed away 12 years ago and I had countless mediums do me readings. .played on my heart strings . Whilst I am open minded that some people do have a gift. .If I felt I wanted to go down that route I would find out for myself. .so no more messages !

[little-al]

Sorry to say on here but is anyone having problems viewing other users comments. .my email says people are comenting on my blogs. .but I can’t view the comments ????

[little-al]

Hi everyone. I hope you’re all ok and enjoying the sun shine…I really don’t know what to do. ..my partner is still working and using heroin. He works all week but the more he earns the more he uses. Last night we went for a drink in town and his dealer was there. His dealer actually told him that he needs to cut down his use before he gets in a bad way..A way the dealer has seen my partner many times before he met me. He was homeless, constantly in and out of jail. .my partner says he loves me everyday. .and he tells me he is worried about his physical health. .he keeps getting electric shocks down his arms and legs..and feelings like he’s going to faint or fit. .also without sounding rude his bollocks ache..I’m worried this is a sign of a stroke ,his doctor can’t see him for 2 weeks. .To look at my partner you wouldn’t know he was a long term heroin user as he is tanned. .well built and looks physically well. .he weighs 14 stone..and I think because of this he easily dissmisses his problem.I’m sorry to ramble on..I’m just so worried. Thanks

[little-al]

I hi .. I am sorry to hear of your situation benji..I to live with a heroin addict.
For 9 years…I have been to countless meetings with him..I was once told it takes the average heroin addict 15 years before they manage to get clean..My advice to you is in order to stay strong..is to keep a diary of all your thoughts and feelings and recently I did a life plan of goals for myself and the kids..remember as much as you love him his relationship is now with heroin and if he doesn’t already he will be needing it to get out of bed in the mornings. .also I have found when my partner is on the gear he is ‘normal” but when he hasn’t got it he’s selfish and agitated and can be nasty..so stay safe ! Also for him if his habit does escalate..try to avoid giving him large amounts of money..Some dealers offer more gear for less cash..I. e 6 bags for 50 quid..and from experience the gear doesn’t last they just abuse it more.Try to get him to make an appointment with can or c.r.I ..After his first appointemeet it takes a while but eventually he will see a doctor.As he has only been a user for 6 months he may be able to do the suited programme..which is a tablet that once taken he won’t be able to use as the heroin won’t work..My partner has been an addict for 20 years and is on methadone. .which I don’t think works for him.

[little-al]

I hi .. I am sorry to hear of your situation benji..I to live with a heroin addict.
For 9 years…I have been to countless meetings with him..I was once told it takes the average heroin addict 15 years before they manage to get clean..My advice to you is in order to stay strong..is to keep a diary of all your thoughts and feelings and recently I did a life plan of goals for myself and the kids..remember as much as you love him his relationship is now with heroin and if he doesn’t already he will be needing it to get out of bed in the mornings. .also I have found when my partner is on the gear he is ‘normal” but when he hasn’t got it he’s selfish and agitated and can be nasty..so stay safe ! Also for him if his habit does escalate..try to avoid giving him large amounts of money..Some dealers offer more gear for less cash..I. e 6 bags for 50 quid..and from experience the gear doesn’t last they just abuse it more.Try to get him to make an appointment with can or c.r.I ..After his first appointemeet it takes a while but eventually he will see a doctor.As he has only been a user for 6 months he may be able to do the suited programme..which is a tablet that once taken he won’t be able to use as the heroin won’t work..My partner has been an addict for 20 years and is on methadone. .which I don’t think works for him.

[little-al]

Thank you..I am sure it would help to talk to someone…I have sent an email. .my partners drug use is on the increase and it’s because he says he is taking more in the mornings cause he is scared of being poorly at work..Not to mention the 6 bags for 50 that these sole destroying drug dealers offer thanks for reading.

[little-al]

A friend of mine has just had a baby and her partner is an alcoholic although he doesn’t believe it. I hear similar things froom her and no I don’t think you are paranoid. .. any addiction takes its toll on the family.. its just a shame it takes the addict so long

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