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Did anyone see ty85 post, she’s started a petition for drug dealers to get harsher sentences?
I hope to God something is done.
Good night ladies
I hope you manage to get some sleep.
Sending hugs
Lx
Thanks Ivy , I’ll keep that in mind, I had noticed it’s one step forward, and 2 steps back with long covid.
I don’t know if it helps any, but I did a course during lockdown with Futurelearn ‘ Understanding anxiety depression CBT.’
I understand you have work and enough on your plate, but it might give you an insight in the meantime.
Take care of you ❤
Lx
Ivy , I agree with Bump, you have been through so much. I also wish I had all the answers im glad this thread has been support for you.
The Icarus trust posts here a lot too.
I also admire your strength though this difficult time and you are right to concentrate on your own health and well-being. I hope and pray your son will seek the help and support he needs. Take care.
Bump- I’m finding the long covid is affecting my breathing, cold weather is also making it worse, so i can’t walk much either. But I think the stress and anxiety doesn’t help. Take care of yourself too.
Thinking of you all
Lx
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Frenchie I am so sorry to hear of your loss. This is every parent’s nightmare, whether they are an addict or not.
As a parent you can only do your best to support them, the ultimate choice is down to them unfortunately .
I don’t have all the answers, but the adfam homepage and the Icarus trust offers advice and support. There’s also people in recovery who give good advice, read stories by Danman83, jaynhissay and Dot. They could maybe give advice for your son.
My son has cocaine and alcohol addictions, so I have an idea of what families go through. I’m hoping that with the love of your grandchild you will get through this difficult time.
I wanted you to know that people are things and praying for you.
Stay strong and seek help and support to get through this.
Lx
A wee warning, scenes of drug taking though. Maybe you should stick to something light hearted!
Lx 😉
I really admire you for your strength to get through this recovery. I understand it’s hard, my son tells me this.
I’ll look into that book, I watched “Beautiful boy” with Steve Carell other night. True story again, disturbing, but wonderful to see the Dad’s involvement every step of the way.
Keep on doing what you’re doing ???? stay strong
Lx
Hi all,
Danman83 , I was hoping you would reply to this young lady.
A person in recovery would give the best advice here i think.
Ronnie also knows what it feels like , it’s good to share help support others.
Debc, I wanted to share with you in congratulating Danman. Well done, we are so proud of you.
Keep it up, stay strong it will all be worth it.
My son is still doing well, I know it’s hard for him, but the fellowship guys are so supportive.
Thinking and praying for you all.
Lxx
I’m so pleased for you guys, just wanted to say it, you should both be proud of yourselves.
It will be totally worth it !
Stay strong
Lx
Brilliant news Danman
Keep it up , we’re all dead chuffed for you!
My son found it hard too, but the fellowship guys will support you through this.
Stay strong have faith and hope,
Lx
Hi Jai, welcome to the forum.
I read your story last night and thought that maybe a person in recovery would have replied to you.
If you read the other threads, particularly Danman83, Bt1978 and jaynhissay, they all are people in recovery offering good advice and support.
All the people here are affected by addiction one way or the other.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions and reached out for help last year. He spoke to doctor first, then joined AA and CA meetings, currently online.
Not gonna lie, it’s been hard for him, relapsed a few times, but this is normal. The homepage and Icarus trust offers advice too.
It can be done, and you’ve taken the first step in admitting you have a problem and seeking help, so be proud of yourself for that!
Confide in someone close, if not the fellowship in the AA and CA are so supportive of each other.
My son is currently 90+ days clean, so it can be done.
You need faith, hope and strength and with the encouragement of others , you’ll get there!
I wish you well
Keep posting
Lx
Congratulations Danman83, it can’t be easy sharing, but you did it! My son found it difficult at first too, but I guess it gets easier the more meetings you do.
My son’s had a couple of wobbles too, but it’s great the ways the fellowship will help you through them.
I wish I could thank them!
Keep up the good work and stay strong ????
Lx
Hi Cathsp welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery giving good support and advice.
Danman83 is so supportive, helped me last year.
I was sorry to read your story, its horrible to see your loved one like this.
If you click on “share your story ” and read the Theresa thread, there are several of us mums with sons with addictions. It just let’s you know that you’re not alone.
Until your son admits he has a problem and needs help, there’s not much we mums can do.
We can reassure them that we love them, but hate what the addiction is doing to them.
In the meantime please look after your own health and well-being. Take pleasure in the little things, a nice walk, a takeaway coffee and cake, something that will please you. Or 5 min meditation videos on phone.
My son has is 29 and has alcohol and cocaine addictions, i know the effect it has on the family.
Thinking and praying for you.
Lx
I can relate to the bedroom like a tip. When my son lived with us , his room was awful, he looked awful, fortunately he still worked.
When he moved out..he inherited enough to get deposit on a flat.
The same day, we threw everything out his room.
I had another elderly relative who used alcohol to help her sleep initially, but she got addicted to it.
Doc said it lures you into a false sense of sleep, when it became a real problem, she had to get detox.
It must be very frustrating for you, especially living under your roof.
Please don’t let it affect your health too. I know lockdown is compounding matters, but try to get out for a walk, clear your head.
Is there someone you can confide in? If not, try Icarus trust for advice. Stay strong.
Always here to chat
Lx
Hi Tishy, welcome to the forum I just needed you to know that you don’t have to feel alone.
This forum has lots of people who are concerned about their loved ones addictions. There are also people in recovery offering support and advice too.
Read the other threads, click onto ‘share your story ‘ read the Theresa thread, there are several of us mums all with sons with addictions.
My son is 29, alcohol and cocaine addictions, when he has alcohol it triggers the need for cocaine.
Such an evil drug, changes them completely, divides families. Addiction affects everyone.
My son has had addictions for several years but only admitted it, and reached out for help just over a year ago. He’s had a few relapses, this is normal, but with help and support from the AA fellowship and his sponsor, he is currently 90+ days clean.
I wanted you to know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. But he needs to realise he has a problem and seek support. It has to be his decision. For the moment, just let him know, that you still love him and care about him. The Icarus trust posts here too, they have councillors who have experience, especially if he has mental health issues. Also, look after yourself , don’t worry, and don’t feel alone.
Stay strong
Keep in touch here.
Lx