destin32541

Your strength could save his life and actually give you the relief you need. 30 days is an absolute gift.

It’s got to be a double edged sword for you, on one hand a peace and the other a grief at what you have lost and what it could have been. I am constantly going over in my head what it will be like to lose my husband. I have no clue what he’s up to at the moment as l am staying detached. I got home yesterday after deliberately staying out all morning. He was sat on the sofa watching tv and drinking pedialyte, it’s an electrolyte drink. He must have not been feeling good so that’s something he does to avoid a seizure. I didn’t ask. The afternoon and evening was nice and quiet and l slept so well as he was not snoring from booze.

We are very fortunate not to have any financial worries, having worked hard and being wise not having any debt. Since retirement we have travelled a lot and getting away from here helps but the covid has stopped all that. We have a huge cruise booked for December if it happens, should have gone this past Christmas. I just hope he’s well enough.

I think that this forum is going to help me a lot as l am reading other stories that mirror mine but seem so much worse. I want to have an acceptance and get rid of the anger, to be a better person and not filled with rage and resentment. I want to be as forgiving as you.

How awful for you and your daughter. My husband is not that sick yet but he is heading that way as time goes on. As l said in my original post l will not leave him so l have to find ways to live my life with him. I am 68 he’s 59. This past week he has been sleeping a lot, he broke his ankle a week ago, old injury just snapped, so he has an excuse to do nothing. I am trying to keep calm and not make negative comments while all the time l am seething inside. Once he’s out of beer he will get himself out for more. He does all his drinking at home. This past year he has had several bouts of sickness and then he goes cold turkey and that’s when l have to watch him like a Hawk in case he has a seizure. I am a retired nurse but they still leave me quite traumatized. I didn’t call for an ambulance the last time as he’s usually recovering when they get here. If he stops breathing there’s no way l could revive him as he’s gotten so big. I know it’s awful but his huge beer gut grosses me out. I have never said anything to him about it as l would never want to hurt his feelings. I read your story and you sound so caring. I am just angry, frustrated and resentful. I don’t think he’s ever going to stop so l have to look after myself.l do hope your hubby makes it.

I found your post extremely understanding and sympathetic to your husbands disease.

I have been married 35 years. My husband is an alcoholic. He has some serious medical problems, seizures being the scariest but as a retired nurse l have been fortunate as far asl know to be there when it happens.

We have both been retired fora number of years so spend a lot of time together. We do have a type of hobby that l won’t go into but we do it together.anyhow, back to the drinking. Though l don’t think it’s any worse than it’s always been, the verbal abuse is leaving me more and more in a state of dislike and disgust for him. It’s getting to the point that l don’t even like him touching me. I told him this morning that l felt like that but l don’t think it registered. I read that l should detach myself which is what l am going to do. Not just for my sanity but l am afraid that l may become violent as l cannot tolerate his comments. I know he’s spoiling for a row but l go out rather than engage. This all sounds so stupid as we can get on well at times.